Saturday, December 8, 2012

A Rare Glimpse of Vulnerability

I’d like to give you a rare glimpse into my true emotional side of my diagnosis. I try very hard to be positive most of the time but my husband was there last night to witness what a true emotional breakdown is when talking about the fears of what is to come in the future with this disorder. The truth? I’m scared.

So much is unknown. All the research that I have read is merely speculation of what “could” happen to me because each case is completely unique. The possibilities range from no symptoms (which is obviously not my path) all the way to death. I guess it just troubles me when I think about how devastating my diagnosis really was in March 2011. I really want to just forget about my diagnosis and live life as a normal adult, but my symptoms don’t allow me to do that these days.
I have the delivery of my son coming up and I’ve had what they call a patient care conference at the hospital. My case is quite rare and the room was full of doctors and medical professionals offering me some sort of insight into what my delivery might be like in the coming months. They discussed that there is not a lot of research for women with my diagnosis who have become pregnant. Luckily, I have a support group that is amazing and full of women who also conceived when diagnosed with Syringomyelia and/or Chiari. One doctor (anesthesiologist) felt that I could handle a natural birth, while my obstetrician and perinatologist both recommended a c-section delivery. The meeting went on for an hour and a half discussing both the pros and cons of both sides. In the end, we all agreed that a c-section would be the best choice for me. The next decision will come from the type of anesthesia I will be given, whether it is general (completely asleep) or an epidural.

Yesterday proved to be a difficult one for me. I realized that I am less than two months from bringing my son into this world and I am not sure how it will all play out for me physically. My greatest fear is to not see my son being born due to a possible general anesthesia delivery. The other major fear is that I may not be able to fully care for my son the way most mothers are able due to my physical constraints. What the doctors and I completely agreed upon is that my son is in wonderful health and that my concern is not on how HE is going to handle delivery but more so, how I am going to handle it with my condition. We discussed that pregnancy does not worsen my condition, but potentially a natural delivery could.
Colin, our new son, is doing amazingly well. He is growing quickly and, as of our last ultrasound, weighed 3lbs 5ounces at 28 weeks. This is approximately one and a half pounds larger than the other babies in the same week. We will be 30 weeks tomorrow and will have seven weeks until our little Colin comes into our family. Through all of the fears, I am more anxious to meet my little boy and bring him into our already loving family full of wonderful children. Colin will be our final child and will give us two girls and two boys. I’m truly blessed even through all of the pain and anguish the diagnosis brings me.